In Her Details
A love letter to all of my incredible girlfriends
I want to know that you take your mum to golf on Thursdays
And that you take your tea with lemon, not milk
I want to know the three words to describe your personal style are “comfortable Italian cowboy”
And that your new power mantra is, “What would Martha do?”
I want to know about your big wild idea that you’re placing in your future
And the things you’re doing right now for stability and security
I want to know that you need to double down on your vitality
And that you have no enthusiasm or energy for the things you want to do
I want to know that you’re scared but hopeful for life beyond the big decision you made
And that you feel like you’ve lost yourself in your own family home
I want to know about this new life stage you’re navigating in your womanhood
And that you’re learning to make hats and jewellery after years of wishing you could
I want to know what he said that made you cry as you walked down the hospital corridor
And the surprise 40th birthday gift he’s giving you that’s no longer a surprise
I want to know that you’re thinking about moving your family to Portugal or the Netherlands
And that you’ve finally decided to quit that job and go all-in on the career that’s been calling you
I want to know that you’re shedding an identity that everyone has come to know you for
And that you’ve taken up running to give yourself time away from everyone who relies on you
I want to know that you’re sick of saying, “Don’t worry about it - I’ll do it” - to your ex, your lovers, your son
And that you are now officially in your “F**k It Era” and doing things your way
I want to know every single thing you’re ready to burn down (so I can hand you the lighter)
And every single thing you want to nurture into bloom (so I can hand you the hose)
I want to know every hope, dream, boundary, goal and vision you hold secret in your heart
And cheer you on as you smash them, achieve them, hold them, build them and bring them to life
I want to know you in all of your glorious, mundane, exquisite, tiny, brilliant details
And be the one to say, “See her? That’s my incredible friend, right there.”
I want you to know me in all of my glorious, mundane, exquisite, tiny brilliant details
And be the one to say, “See her? That’s my incredible friend, right there.”
Loved this piece? You can always shout me a cuppa to help me keep the words flowing. Tea is my fuel, and your support means the world — truly. ♥ SB x
wow, this is so beautiful Sonia, I feel seen and I see you. Thank you xx
I’ve had to learn that it’s ok to share all of myself, and that I won’t be rejected for all of me.
Thank you for being my beautiful friend who accepts all the parts of me x